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Resignation vs. Acceptance
I can struggle with accepting things the way they are, and also in defining the finer distinctions between acceptance and resignation.
My type 9 ego structure (and many other forms of personality, maybe yours!) can self-neglect, tune out the world, or tell me everything's fine. These are forms of resignation. Giving up, in a sense.
These are not forms of true, radical acceptance of our circumstances. These are ways to ignore circumstances or disassociate from them. Sometimes we need a change because it's not fine. Sometimes we deserve more respect and care. Sometimes we need to engage more, not less.
The type of acceptance I'm talking about is different. We can allow life's natural rhythms and cycles. We can let go of ideas of "right" or "wrong, "good" or "bad." We can observe the present moment from an impartial place.
Here are some examples of resignation vs. acceptance:
Resignation says: "I will never be able to ______, so why bother?"
Acceptance says: "I accept my limitations at the moment and view them as neutral facts about my life."
Resignation says: "Everyone asks me to do X, and I can't say no. I have to do it."
Acceptance says: "When people make requests of me, I feel obligated to fill them. I see and accept that I say yes because right now, I'm not ready to set that boundary."
Resignation says: "I can't afford college. I'll just work minimum wage jobs forever."
Acceptance says: "I don't have enough money right now to pay for a college degree. I choose not to earn or borrow that money right now."
Choosing resignation is a form of tuning out the world, self-neglecting, or self-forgetting. We choose to "give up" to make things easier on ourselves.
Choosing acceptance gives you back your power. It recognizes your options in any given neutral circumstance.
Notice how resignation is invested in a certain future, and worried about the work that it may take to get to an ideal future. On the other hand, acceptance is about now. This moment, we can accept. This moment, we can let go of judgment.
In this moment, life moves around us. We're not tossed and turned about by life. We choose what we accept, what we allow, and what we create.
I hope you feel that this week. Take a moment to accept something today. Say, "Yes." See what happens.
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